Full vs. Busy
How to Live a Full & Fruitful Life Without Being Too Busy
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Full vs. Busy
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Be Still
Ā āBe still and know that I am God. I will be exalted in the nations. I will be exalted in the earth.ā
– Psalm 46:10 NIV
He is God, we are not! Itās about Him being exalted, not us.
Do you āneed to be needed?ā
Do you like being the āhero?ā…
If your answer is āyesā to either, you will tend to be too busy!
Receive Your Sonship (Daughterhood)
āSo you are no longer a slave, but a son; and since you are a son, God has made you also an heir.ā
– Galatians 4:7 NIV
In Christ, you are not a slave or a āhired handā but rather you are a son!
Do you feel the need to prove yourselfāto someone else? To God? To yourself?
Sons donāt need to prove anything! They are already accepted (Ephesians 1:6) in THE SON! If you are still trying to prove yourself, you will tend to take on too much and become too busy!
Align Your Values
āGod, who has called you into fellowship with his Son Jesus Christ our Lord, is faithful.ā
– I Corinthians 1:9 NIV
Value relationships most (over accomplishments and possessions) starting with your relationship with Jesus Christ! Relationship with Jesus is your first ācalling!ā
What do you value in your life? Take a full sheet of paper and make of list of everything that you can think of that you value.
Next, can you find a scripture from Godās Word that supports each person, place, or thing that you have listed?
Re-evaluate your valuesāthere are only so many hours in a day, so you wonāt be able to do āeverything.ā Align your values with what God values most! If you donāt, you will try to do more than you have strength and capacity to do and you will tend to be too busy!
Set Priorities with Purpose
āAt daybreak Jesus went out to a solitary place. The people were looking for himā¦they tried to keep him from leavingĀ them. But he said, I must preach the good news of the kingdom of God to the other towns also, because that is why IĀ was sent.ā
– Luke 4:42-43 NIV
Jesus was given ALL AUTHORITY (Matthew 28:18) but only did what His Father authorized Him to do!
How about you? Do you just keep saying āyesā to any and all that is asked of you until you have nothing more to give? Or, do you inquire of the Lord and seek His mind and His will?
Also, keep in mind that your core values will tend not to change. Priorities, however, can certainly change due to the needs of your family and seasons of life and ministry.
Be prayerful, purposeful, and proactive in the setting of your priorities. If you donāt, it will seem at times like the needs, responsibilities, invitations, and opportunities of your life are trying to overtake you, and you will tend to be too busy!
Above All Else: Take Care of Your Heart!
āAbove all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.ā
– Proverbs 4:23 NIV
Have you ever been wronged, hurt, or offended? Have you suffered a loss? – Yes, of course we all have.
The key is: How have we been affected and how have we responded?
If we have unforgiveness and unresolved issues in our hearts, they will continue to have an adverse affect on our hearts and, most importantly, hinder our relationship with Jesus and our ability to hear from Him and discern His will.
With our hearts affected in such an adverse way, we are more likely to be driven instead of led, and we will more easily be motivated out of pride, anger, rejection, fear, and guilt instead of being able to truly discern Godās will.
When you take care of your heartāsubmitting to the sovereignty of God, giving thanks in and for all things, and forgiving one anotherāyou are more and more free to experience the fullness of His Life, hear His voice, and do His bidding!
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How to Live a Full & Fruitful Life - Without Being Too Busy
John 5:19 is our launching pad today: I tell you the truth, the Son can do nothing by Himself. He can only do what He sees His Father doing. Because whatever the Father does, the Son also does.
Where are we going with this message? Weāre going with, the outcome (and I know itās a process) is that you come into such a depth and intimacy of relationship with the Lord that your life is characterized by: You know who you are, you know why youāre here, youāre in touch with the Fatherās heart, and you do what He bids you to do. Is that realistic? Is that possible? Stay tuned. Letās dig deeper.
There are some things that the Lord has shown me– (Not that Iām the example. Donāt want you looking to me, want you looking to Him.) –but anything that Iām going to share today, Iāve been applying to my own life and sharing with others. It seems Iāve met so many people that are looking for answers in this regard. Life is so busy. Thatās a common theme I hear, āMy life is so busy! I feel like I am on a treadmill, a gerbil run, a merry go round, fill in the blank, use your analogy, but itās like itās out of control! I feel overwhelmed!ā Well, we all have different gifts, we all have different capacities. We have temperaments, personalities that vary. Itās got to be more than that. What is it? What are the spiritual secrets with this? I donāt think itās all about being more disciplined, though that wonāt hurt us, but you know thereās ditches on both sides of the road as you go through life. You can get into excess on either side and go in the ditch. Iāll unpack that a little bit more. But the things that Iām going to be sharing today have not only made a difference in my life, but Iāve seen them make a difference in the lives of others.
Keep in mind, the longer you live, we are relational beings. We were made for relationship. If you are relational, even if you are task-oriented, if you are relational, the longer you live the more people youāre going to know. The more people youāre going to visit in the hospital. The more graduation open houses youāre going to go to in the month of May. The more weddings youāre going to go to year-round. The more funerals youāre going to go to. The more celebrations youāre going to attend. The more meetings, the more opportunities, the more people that are going to be in need or crisis. Even if you donāt think your stewardship of ministry is ministering into hearts, we are surrounded by a world in hard crisis. Thereās a crisis of unforgiveness, thereās a crisis of wounds. So many people with wounds. So many people that have been trying to handle it and carry it and manage it for years. Know this: the day is going to come when they canāt handle it any more, that theyāre going to be calling. Theyāre going to be calling you saying that something has happened to their son or daughter. Theyāre going to be calling you and saying that something has happened in their marriage. Theyāre going to be calling you and saying that something has come up in the way of a health issue. Theyāre going to be calling you. Theyāre going to be reaching out to you.
The needs of a human heart are universal. You know, itās interesting. Thereās definitely strongholds in China, a stronghold of performance, of excellence. You know, āno matter what, it doesnāt seem to be good enough,ā well, thatās not unique to China. I have ministered to many people over the years with that same testimony. No matter what they did growing up, it was never good enough. Now theyāre married and they canāt seem to please their wife or husband, no matter what they do. Or in their workplace, no matter what it never seems to be good enough. That isnāt just unique to China, thatās universal. Also, saving face or putting on a good face or a front, thatās not unique to China. Also, meaningful touch. You know, at an early age, they tend to withdraw their touch and affection in China, from their daughters in particular. Thatās not unique. Meaningful touch, and healthy touch, and wholesome touch. As the family has broken down, as people have become more individualistic, not only in this society but worldwide, thereās going to be more and more of a heart crisis. Are we ready? Are we willing to participate ourselves? I believe that the things that I share today will be more than just answers and questions about a busy life, but I pray that it will speak to your hearts in profound ways beyond that. Here are the themes that I would like to address; that are going to be a part of the solution of how to live a full and fruitful life without being too busy. Now, donāt think of that as having a lot of margin. Thatās not the goal. Having more free time, thatās not the goal. I pray that I am going to expose some things, some standards, that you put on yourself that you donāt have grace for. Itās just going to make an already full life fuller, or seem fuller to you. Because youāll have the grace to do what God wants you to do.
It wonāt help us to compare. It wonāt help us to compare, because we have different capacities. We have different gifts. We have different assignments. More isnāt necessarily better, and less isnāt necessarily better. What does the Father have for you? I pray thatās what we can tap into.
Well, hereās where it starts. Psalm 46:10: Be still and know that I am God. for I will be exalted among the nations. I will be exalted in the earth. Simply stated, He is God; we are not.
Are you playing God, though? Do you have to be the hero? Do you need to be needed? If you need to be needed, why? Itās a trap. Itās a trap. If you need to be needed, itās going to help set you up to say yes to things God doesnāt want you to say yes to. You know, especially in this room, there are going to be people that, weāre going to have opportunity. This is a quality group, I think. Youāre going to have a lot of opportunity. If you donāt already have, youāre going to have more. There are going to be more opportunities than you could ever possibly say yes do. So, it canāt be āFirst come, first served. Whoever asks me first, I say yes and then I run out of yesses and Iām dying if I keep saying yes.ā Are you free to say no? If you need to be needed, it will be hard for you to say no.
Ron and Karen remember this, back in the mid-ā80s when I was teaching the first counselor training classes back at Trinity Church, my first priority was to address this issue in the context of training counselors. Because when youāre helping others with needs of the heart, if you need to be needed, the potential ditch–even if you donāt intend it–the potential ditch is to use people to fill the need for significance in you. To use their need to feed you.
And then, later on, I think it was in the early ā90s that Rick Joiner wrote a book called The Harvest, which was kind of a prophetic word, a word of prophecy, and in the early pages of that book, what really struck me was to do what I just described, to build your little kingdom, if you will–amplify what Iāve just said, youāve planted a church, youāve started a ministry, youāve got a ministry and youāre building your little kingdom for you, for your significance. Iām not saying you intend it. But this is what Rick said: Itās like raping the body of Christ. Whoa, those are strong words. But thatās the nature of abuse, using people.
Are you using anybody to feed a need in you? I pray you have the fear of the Lord. May God convict you. No shame, no blame. I pray the Holy Spirit will do His work. But, I pray that God will free you from needing to be needed for your own appetite for significance to be filled, rather than your appetite for significance being filled in being a son or a daughter, which is the next point.
Galatians 4:4-7: But when the time had fully come, God sent His son, born of a woman under the law to redeem those under the law that we might receive the full rights of sons. Becasue you are sons, God sent the spirit of His son into our hearts. The spirit who calls out Abba, Father, so you are no longer a slave, but a son. And since you are a son, God has made you an heir.
Okay, here is the next question, are you ready to stand? When you think of how you relate to God (Iām not talking about head knowledge; Iām talking about what youāre believing in your heart) do you see yourself more:
a.) as a son or a daughter in your relationship with God
b.) as an orphan
c.) as a hired hand
Receive your sonship! Are you living like a son or are you living like a hired hand? Hired hands try to prove themselves. Do you have anything to prove? Are you trying to prove something to someone in your past or present, other than God? Are you trying ot prove something to yourself? Is your worth settled? Is your significance settled? Is your valued settled, or is the verdict still out on your worth and value? If itās still out, you are going to be too busy. Youāre not going to be free to say yes to His invitations. Oh, yes, the barnacles of religiosity. The barnacles of āI should, I ought to, Iām supposed to,ā will be trying to hang on to you. The family rules, the church rules that youāve been involved in. The shoulds, the ought-toās, the guilt trips, the pressure. āThe need is so great! Somebodyās gotta do it!ā Are you free to get the mind of the Lord as a son, not a hired hand or an orphan., Orphans donāt hear from God. Orphans donāt feel wanted. Orphans donāt feel needed. Orphans live at least in the land of ambivalence: āWell, I know itās right, but I donāt feel that I amount to much or am worth much.ā God wants us free to live as a son or a daughter, knowing that we already give our Dad pleasure. We know weāre not perfect, we know we never will be. Heās the only One that is. But we know Heās pleased; we sense His pleasure because of who we are, not because of what weāve done or havenāt done. What we havenāt done or have done matters. It matters. It matters. And certainly sin matters; itās going to affect our relationship with God. But who we are as submitted, committed sons and daughters; submitted to the King and willing to let Him do anything He wants to do, that matters. That gives Him such pleasure.
Psalm 40:8: I delight to do Your will, O God. David said it. Did David always do it? He had a heart to please. Do you have a heart to please? Jesus in His humanity always did the will of the Father. –Which brings us to the second part of āreceive your sonship,ā which also includes, ākeep in mind your stewardship or your assignment as a son or a daughter.ā
I think of this past year, at the end of 2007 we left the staff at Trinity. We launched Fresh Start for All Nations, though weāve been doing this kind of ministry for years, organizationally speaking, 501c3, nonprofit. Thereās a few things involved in starting a new ministry. And then partnering with Link and Jen and the starting of this church. So, like, before they moved here (though they were coming once a month on the average, which was wonderful) it was like having two fulltime responsibilities. But, I can say that I had grace for it. I slept well at night, by the way. [Laughter] But, it was not a burden. Why? Iām a son. I had an assignment. I accepted the assignment as from the Lord. I accepted you, if I can say it that way, because I know we have a relationship with a lot of you and thereās a sense in which this is not only a church plant but itās also an inheritance, if you will. Itās both. The inheritance has to do with the truth. The truth that matters. Integrity matters. The gifts of the Holy Spirit matter. Being salt in the city matters. Going to the nations matters. Things that we share in the way of values and priorities and things like that that weāve shared for years. Itās not like putting a name on it, āOkay, itās a Trinity label, itās an All Nations label,ā I really believe itās from Godās heart! And I think itās for anyone who will say yes to it. Whether itās Waypoint church or any other church. I donāt think itās our little elite group here, because I donāt think God wants us to think of having an elite group. I donāt think thatās in His mind at all, but itās from His heart. Itās before the foundations of the world. Itās something He was inviting His people into and itās like itās His invitation. Will we accept the invitation? I did. So, it was not a burden at all, for all practical purposes being the lead pastor in 2008 before Link and Jen got here. Was not a burden at all because I received the assignment and I received you as we have an inheritance.
Itās like we have a responsibility in a sense. Itās like, are we going to get it right, or are we going to squander it? Because I really believe we have an invitation and Iāve got the fear of the Lord on it. Itās from Him. Itās not our thing, itās His thing. Fresh Start is not my thing, itās His thing. All Nations Church is not our thing–Link and mine and whoever else is on the leadership team like Dan, who was up here earlier, and Dave and Gary Perkins and Dave Klazna and whoever else, Iām sure Iām forgetting someone. Iām not trying to minimize that, but itās not my main point. Those of us that are a part of the leadership team, if you will, itās a sacred trust. Itās not our thing. Itās not a man thing, itās a God/man thing. I rise to that. I rise to that. That has life. That has a sense of assignment. Weāve got an inheritance that has to do with truth and the application thereof and we have an inheritance in the sense of a people. But we donāt just stay there, we grow from there. And weāve got so much to give. Weāve got so much to give. To whom much has been given, much is required. Thatās not a burden to you. So, you may think, āHow did you do it?ā Hey, God. Godās invitations come pre-blessed and have everything you need to live them out. Was not a burden at all; is not a burden at all. Because Iām a son. Iāve got nothing to prove. Iām a son.
It reminds me of a message, actually itās an article Iāve written and maybe a message Iām giving some day that if I was going to entitle it, I would entitle it, āYou Have the Authority, But Are You Authorized?ā It reminds me of Luke 4:40 and verses following: When the sun was setting, the people brought to Jesus all who had various kinds of sickness. And laying hands on each one of them, he healed them. And then it goes on to say, at daybreak, Jesus went out to a solitary place and the people were looking for Him and when they came to where He was, they tried to keep Him from leaving them. And then He went on to say, I must preach the good news of the Kingdom of God to other towns also because that is why I was sent.
Jesus always said yes to the Father. Which, really, horizontally meant āno.ā So, the disciples came, āWeāve been healing people, weāve been casting out demons, thereās more people in need! Theyāre looking for You! Letās go, letās keep going! The work isnāt done!ā Stop and go on to the next town. Are you free? Are you free to live that way? āBut we need you. Somebodyās gotta do it. If you donāt teach that Bible study, who will? If you donāt lead that ministry, whoās going to? If you donāt meet with that person, whoās going to meet with them? What kind of a Christian are you? Donāt you care?ā All the pressure is great, isnāt it? The opportunities are large. But do we have the freedom to live as a son or a daughter who says yes to his Father, even if others may not understand? Others might be offended. Itās not like we want them to be offended. You have a choice. I have a choice. So many times, we feel like, āMy life is out of control! I feel like I donāt have a choice.ā You have a choice! You have a choice. You are empowered to choose. You may not like the options. You may not like to live how other people inspire your choice. They may not like your choice. But you have a choice. Youāre not trapped. You always have a choice.
But if you need to be needed, that wonāt help you. If youāre an orphan, and living like one, that wonāt help you hear from God. Youāll tend to live in the land of shame and false guilt and that will be heavy. You wonāt have grace for that. Part of what I want to expose through this message today are the things that we put on ourself that God is not putting them on us. If weāre putting them on ourselves and He isnāt, you wonāt have grace for those things. Life is already going to be full. Thereās already going to be great demands. Thereās already going to be opportunities, but then you will have grace for those, especially when Heās inviting you into. Thatās how I approach it now. Whether itās a person in need, seeking help for their heart, or whether itās an opportunity to go to Africa, which weāve said yes to in August, to Sierra Leon, to Botswana and Burundi, Whether itās a yes to leaders in another land, or whether itās yes to somebody in this room who has a need or somebody in your family has a need. You know what I do? I say, āLord, is this Your invitation? Are you inviting me? I donāt need to be needed. I care. I care, I love people more and more, more than ever. Great passion. I have a stewardship, Lord, Youāve given me so much; I want to give it away. Are you inviting me, Lord?ā Is your relationship such that youāre able to hear God, His invitation? Thatās what He wants in terms of where weāre going, the direction weāre going.
Values. Value relationship most, starting with your relationship with Jesus. I Corinthians 1:9 puts the emphasis where I believe it belongs, where it says that: God, who has called you into fellowship with His Son Jesus Christ, our Lord, is faithful. Thereās the first calling. Thatās the capital āCā Calling in our life. Your calling, if youāre a pastor, thatās not your Calling. If youāre a mother or a father, or fill in the bank in terms of a role. Our roles– the roles that we play are not our Callings. Our Calling is always our Calling to the Son. And if we donāt make that first, then we wonāt be able to see clearly any call within the Call. So, when my Call is to Him, my relationship to Him, nothing is more important to me than my relationship with Him. And part of the proof of the fruit of my ministry as I go along is, Iāll be 59 next month, but when Iām 69 or 79, the most important question you should ask me is, āSteve, howās your relationship with Jesus? Do you love Jesus more than ever?ā And if I canāt say that Iām loving Jesus more as I go along, Iām missing it. I love what Robert Clinton says in the book The Making of a Leader. He talks about convergence; when your gift, your calling, the opportunities and the tests that youāve passed, the moral authority that you have, all converge together and your testimony would be, āThis is what Iām here for!ā –For His glory, of course, and the benefit of others. Thereās very few people that reach convergence, because they donāt pass the test. They have unforgiveness. Their hearts are in the ditch. They have orphan thinking. Theyāve had failures because their hearts got away from them.
After that, Robert Clinton talks about āthe afterglow.ā The afterglow years. I think of Jay Christie Wilson–some of you remember him from when he came to Trinity for our global outreach conferences, and all that he did in Afghanistan and all that he would have to do is stand up. He was full of his story and stories. Pastor Elmer Murdoch is the same. Here he is 82 and heās in the afterglow years. Most people never hit convergence. For sure, most people never live the afterglow. You see, itās all about relationship. If you keep cultivating a heart thatās forgiven and forgiving and giving thanks in and all things and youāre keeping short accounts and your heart is full–not getting away from you, not too busy, not dead, not tired, not all about you, not always on your mind, but always on His mind–you will be cultivating a life that will allow you to converge with what God has for you. Donāt compare with me! Donāt compare with anybody else in the room! That is deadly. Itās stewardship out of sonship and daughterhood. What is your stewardship? We have a stewardship, a unique, tailor-made stewardship that God is giving us, that Heās investing in us. For me, it is investing in hearts. For you, it could be something else. And it doesnāt matter how many countries that I go to, or Fresh Start goes to, as much as what is in my heart. Is my heart pleasing to the Lord?
Clean hands, pure heart, hearing God, doing His bidding. Last year, for example, 2008, I knew because of what Iāve already mentioned in terms of ANC starting up and Fresh Start starting up in a new way, it wasnāt the year to go out of town very much on Fresh Start trips. That relates to value (what I value) relationship. It also related to priorities for that year. And now this year, things are opening up and weāve gone to China, weāre going to Africa, we went to Tijuana earlier, but it isnāt a matter of, āWow, look at this, itās so glamorous, itās so wonderful, you know, youāre a world traveler,ā thatās not the point. The issue is, am I doing what my Father is doing? Itās His mission, not mine. Itās His invitation, not mine. Iām not inviting myself. Iād never have to go out of town again. I really mean that. Some of you maybe have a hard time believing that, but Iād never have to leave the city again. I have nothing to prove. I love God, I love people, I want to obey and thereās plenty of opportunity right in this room, right in this city. Weād never have to go anywhere. But, itās not an issue of that. Itās an issue of stewardship. Itās an issue of assignment and that coming out of sonship and itās an issue of what is the Father doing and what is He inviting me into? He doesnāt have to use me but I naturally want to be used for His glory, but itās not like I have to, to feel more significant. Because Iām already significant, because Iām a son. What do you value?
I want to encourage you before the day is over (if at all possible; I know itās going to be a beautiful, top 10 day) but, it would be wonderful if the day is over if you could write down and make a list of everything that you value in life. By the way, youāre living what you value. All else is talk. Now, maybe youāre not living what you value this week, because there may have been some things that came up that were out of your control and itās like, this really wasnāt a typical week, this isnāt a representative week. But, Iād say a month or more, what you live, how you spend your time, whatās important to you, gotta be a pretty good picture of what you value. So, write down what you value and then as you look at those things that you value, try to find a Biblical reference for each of those things. If you canāt, get rid of it. In other words, make sure that what you value, He values. And if He doesnāt, reevaluate your values. Because you will live your values. Any goal that you set, attach it to a value or it will run out of gas, I guarantee you.
Mindy and I pray on a regular basis. We try to every day, especially when weāre in town. Iām not trying to put that on you. Iām not trying to make that a legalistic thing. But we value that because we value oneness in our relationship and God has shown us that as we pray together every day and share our hearts and debrief that has an effect not only on our hearts but in our spirits and in our relationship. Itās not giving to get, itās a value. And if Iām out of town and Iām able to call, I do. If Iām out of the country, I text or email. If weāre apart, we communicate somehow, some way. Itās a value. Iām not trying to put it on you. Iām not trying to say if you donāt do it the way we do, youāre missing it. That is whatās so beautiful about this. You can get the mind of the Lord on the values that connect with you in your season of life, too! Because we are in the empty nest season, so that obviously affects our priorities. Because Justin and Josh are married and live in a different city, Joyās still around, not living with us. In one sense, we donāt have the ballgames, we donāt have the activities that we used to that would have been a part of the values and priorities of those years. Which in that sense frees us to participate in some other things. And yet, values are core. Relationship, so we love being able to go to Washington DC or Houston once a year if we can, and they come here once a year thatās great. We value getting together and we value getting together with Joy and cultivating a relationship with her. Making time. Values.
Values are more core and unchanging. Priorities may vary with seasons of life. So, thatās one reason why itās best for me not to be too specific about what Mindy and I do because weāre in a particular season that you may not be in, so that priority may not fit you. If you tried to live up to it, you wouldnāt have grace to. So, thatās why Iām asking you, make a list of what you value and go vertical. See what God thinks. Crystalize those. Refine those. Pray into those. Share those with your significant other.
Priorities, in light of what Iāve said, tying this all together, itās like our priorities connect with āBe still and know that I am God,ā He is, we arenāt. Are we living like sons or daughters? Not hired hands or orphans? Are we clear on our values? Are we clear on our priorities? Because, if you arenāt clear, the external opportunities of life will be coming at you all the time and youāll be in the responding mode. Youāll be respond, respond, respond, respond, and you feel like, āI donāt have a choice. Thereās just so much going on. I donāt know what to do. Iām just kind of, first-come, first-served, kind of fending it off trying to survive!ā Thatās what I hear a lot, āIām just trying to survive.ā What Iām talking about is a proactive life. Making time for what matters most to God. Taking time, making time, making provision. Weāve got to be clear. So, thereās kind of an eb and a flow in this, too. If you think, āWell, if I donāt have an hour in the morning in prayer, an hour in the Word, my day is wasted. If I donāt work out every day, if I donāt work out three times per week, I blew it. I get discouraged.ā Donāt be so rigid about it! If youāve got that as your direction, if youāve got that as your value, you will make priority to capture the opportunity, because we live in a relational world. What if somebody comes up when youāre on your way to the gym and has a heart problem and has a crisis and you say, āOh, no! I have it worked out all week and you just interrupted my plan!ā See, thatās not how God wants us to live.
We are so famous as people to be so–we worship discipline, we worship–take this message and you can worship it! You could make it the goal! Itās not the goal! Itās kind of like, some spiritual markers of perspective. āBe still and know that I am God.ā What does that look like for you? It may not look like that for me. You might feel the best connection with God when youāre working out. Somebody else is thinking, āI canāt have any noise. I canāt have any music. Iāve got to have a quiet place, or I canāt connect with God.ā Thatās you! Donāt decide what it takes to connect with God, let it be unique for you. But if you think that doesnāt count, those are the barnacles Iām talking about–the religious barnacles Iām talking about. āIf you donāt have an hour in the morning, see thatās what really counts. This other stuff really doesnāt count anyway, itās kind of a bonus. But, youād better get this in, or you really havenāt hit pay dirt.ā Can you see the setup? Link says he feels Godās pleasure when he runs. I enjoy golfing, no matter what, you know, even if I donāt shoot par. –Which I usually donāt. But itās refreshing. But itās not about us, but Iām talking about connecting with God. What does that look like for you? When was the last time you were still?
I like to be with people. You know, some people may say, āYou know, I get more out of Godās Word when I get to talk about it with others. So, you know, we talk about it, we exchange ideas, you know, just picking up the Bible and reading it myself, I just donāt get anything out of it.ā Well, do what fits you! Donāt set a standard that, āIt only counts if you and God get together, just you and Him reading the Word, and if you do it with somebody else it doesnāt count.ā Why do that to yourself? If you tend to get more out of Godās word, and you tend to feel closer to God and get connected with God when you do it with somebody else, then thatās you. Celebrate that. Donāt decide thereās only one way to connect with God. I pray that God will do a fresh work in that regard.
Be still and know that I am God. Receive your sonship. Value what He values. Make sure youāve got a verse for everything you value. –At least, I encourage that. I think that fits. I mean, do we value what He values? What are our core values? Because we will tend to live what we value.
And then be willing to have your priorities flex and flow because of the seasons of life. You know, the Warnocks do a lot of traveling in the summertime with Christy and I think thatās great. Theyāre in that season. Just think of the opportunities theyāre getting with people they come into contact with! They may not be here on a Sunday morning, but theyāre with somebody else because life is about people. Life is about relationship. So, theyāre being salt and light wherever they are. And Christy obviously has gifting and ability that is a stewardship that they are cultivating. So, stewardship, sonship, relationship. Celebrating. Be willing to flex, be willing to flow. You know, one thing, when our boys were growing up, you know, thereās all kinds of opportunity. After they tested everything they liked, sportswise (because they were sports guys), finally I said, āYou know, this is full. Choose one. Choose one that you are going to be focusing in on.ā Thatās what we were led to do; Iām not going to try to put that on you. Maybe in your case, theyāve got an exceptional stewardship in more than one. You know, you realize, itās a stewardship from the Lord, you know, and I want to cultivate that and I want to–you know, because that could lead to scholarships in college and other things, itās stewardship. As long as your heart is vertical and you see life as sonship and stewardship, it gives a lot of clarity to what we would easily call ābusyness.ā Is it really an issue of ābusyā? Or, is it an issue of āfull and fruitfulā?
Life is going to be full. You arenāt going to avoid that, by the way. I talk to a lot of people that are āretiredā and their life is so full, theyāre thinking, āI donāt know how I ever had time to work in my regular job with all the stuff Iāve got going on!ā Lifeās full. Itās just a matter of connecting with our Father and doing what Heās doing and responding to His invitations.
Here is the last point. Heart. Your heart. Take care of your heart. This allows us to go full circle, really. If you donāt take care of your heart and you have unforgiveness, you have resentment, you have things that youāre carrying that youāve never resolved, itās going to affect your ability to hear and see and do the will of God. So, itās like, when you take care of your heart, you allow this to keep going full circle. Itās like clean hands, pure heart allows me to be still and live as a son, a favored son (thatās the only kind God has–favored and forgiven) sons and daughters, Iām free to hear His voice. Iām free to say no. They might be disappointed. They might be upset with me. I canāt control that. My goal canāt be agreement: āI must agree here.ā Iām not trying to be independent. I donāt think Iām so important, I just want to obey. Am I free to say yes, Lord, yes, to your will and to your ways. Yes, Lord, yes, I will trust you and obey. When Your Spirit says to me, when Your Spirit speaks to me, with my whole heart Iāll agree! And my answer will be yes, Lord, yes.